Introvert? Shy? Awkward? Low Self-Esteem?

  • Do you often prefer doing things alone?
  • Do you often feel like you just don't fit in?
  • Do you find you need some "alone time" immediately after work or group activities?
  • Do you prefer to spend time with 2 or 3 friends rather than a large group of acquaintances?
  • Has someone labeled you as having a 'Social Disorder'?

 


Although you may have a social disorder, a majority of individuals who answer yes to the above questions are simply Introverts and do not suffer a disorder. You may feel like an 'outsider' because in general out of every four people, only one is an introvert, the others are extroverts.

What's the Difference? Simply put, extroverts are more external in nature gathering energy from other people, events, and activities. An introvert is internal BY NATURE and loses energy in group situations (even if he likes the activity). They can be easily overwhelmed by external events and stimulation, and renew their energy by being alone for periods of time. Others may call this behavior isolating and withdrawing; however it is needed by the introvert for balance and wellness.

 

Helpful Books and Links

Books:

Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. An excellent, easily understood explanation of intorversion vs extroversion. Chapters specific to functioning in relationships, parenting, socializing, work, self care and more. Adult oriented.

Quiet Power by Susan Cain  for KIDS & TEENS Using their strengths in the classroom, socializing in and out of school, hobbies, home and energy restoration.

Quiet: by Susan Cain  ADULT oriented book Generalized over view of introversion and cultural preference for extroversion, introverted world leaders and their effect on the world.

Videos:

The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain   TED Talk  approx. 20 mins